Alicia said:

If I were looking for people to meet, (and thankfully I am off the market) I would go where people are who like to do the things I do hang out

I have been alone for 12 years.  All of which I have been "out there." In these twelve years, I have been in school (10 years of it to get a ph.d); worked two jobs; volunteered regularly; am polically active; healthy; attractive and intelligent.  And not once has a man just walked up to me and asked me out or wanted to go for coffee while I have been "out there" walking the lake or volunteering or any such thing. 

I believe this is because there is no magic solution to "finding that special one."  In relaity, there is no "special one."  If you are fortunate enough to find someone who matches up with your feelings and criteria and who likes you in return..then you are lucky and it has nothing to do with being in the right place at the right time.  If I believed that, then I would feel hopeless for I would then have to believe that I am always in the wrong place or have the wrong timing. 

In actually, I believe that the most important thing that any single person can do is to keep themselves happy and healthy and do the things they want and wish to do and if they are fortunate, they will find that special someone doing what they like and they want.  If not, then they will know they lived their life for their own special someone, themselves.