Alicia said:

"don't obsess over something that is out of reach ...if there is something missing in your relationship that you need to  work out , do that with your girlfriend"

I agree 100%  .  work out with your girlfriend first  you will have much better chances than looking for someone that you 've never known before

Alicia said: "...there's no chance in hell..."

A reader responds: She's right, I smile at a lot of people, but that doesn't mean you should drop what ever you are doing to marry me!  Been tempted too