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If you
have found your soulmate and a woman that is so special
you want to spend your life with her, you are truly
blessed! What a mistake you would be making to continue
to lust after other
women.
Women
place immeasurable value on being loved and appreciated,
and the security that comes from a committed relationship
.
If you think the looking and lusting have gone unnoticed
and have caused no harm up to this point
, I
can assure you that it will eventually be a problem in
your relationship. We KNOW when you are looking, and a
smart woman would not put up with it.
You
Are Focusing on the Wrong Qualities
I think the real root of the problem is deeper. If
you are looking and lusting at other women, you are
focusing on outward qualities (looks) instead of what
really matters, which is a deeper personal and spiritual
compatibility that will carry you through your life
together. Or perhaps you have not really learned to
be content with what you have, and are looking for "greener
pastures."
It's always better to work
out things instead of giving up on them.
The fact is, the grass is greener where you
water it. You will never be able to have a satisfying
and committed
relationship
with the best, or most beautiful woman in the world -
no one - unless you first learn to appreciate what is
yours and NOT to lust after what does not belong to you.
Appreciate and love your future mate, and stop looking
for something better to come along! If your heart is always
wandering to someone else, you will never be satisfied,
even when you get that person you were longing for. What
happens when the next object of lust comes along? You
will suddenly find yourself lusting for another, and the
process will start all over again.
The only solution is to FIND
A WAY to stop looking and lusting, even if it means
completely removing yourself from the situations in
which you are tempted. For example, if there is a particular
woman at your gym that causes you to "stumble,"
finds another gym, or buy a home gym. Granted, you can
not avoid pretty women for the rest of your life, but
don't put yourself in a situation that could potentially
harm your relationship.
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