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I think
the key here is to be cautious and to take it slowly!
The
fact that he broke up with her is a good sign. However,
you need to realize that this could be a rebound relationship,
even if he says it isn't. We don't always know what our
motivation is.
I Kidded Myself
Believe me, I have done the rebound thing before
- on both sides of the fence - without really knowin
g
it. I had convinced myself
that I was "ready" for another relationship,
but in reality it was just a whole lot easier to erase
the pain with the other relationshi
p .
On the other side, I have also convinced
myself that my new love was truly interested in me, that
his feelings for me were genuine, and that he was "over
her," only to be disappointed and hurt when he went
back to her months later.
You might want to ask him why he broke up with his past
girlfriend. That might lend some insight into the situation,
and also give you a clue about what he is looking for
in a woman. And regardless of whether it is a rebound
relationship or not
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time has a way of revealing the real person, and the real
motivations, so I would advise you to take it slowly.
Establish a good friendship first, before getting too
romantically involved. This will enable you to lay the
foundation for a strong relationship, and make it easier
to extract yourself gracefully if you suspect later that
you might be the victim of a rebound. |