Recently I found out that the love of my life had a sexual affair with my best friend under the pretenses of going to visit him.  The effect on me is one that is almost too much to bear. 

On the one hand, I find out my girlfriend has cheated on me.  The sexual addition only makes that pain worse.  This alone I could handle.  However, the fact that my best friend betrayed me in going along with this, even though he knew how much I loved her and how much she (claimed) she loved me, is what makes the situation so harsh. 

Cheating on someone tears at their soul and their feeling of self worth.  Adding betrayal to the mix, especially of a best friend, rends the heart and leaves permanent damage.  I can never run away from this fact, I have to live with it the rest of my life, haunting me and weakening my trust of others in the future. 

I am somewhat glad that I have had this experience, however. Knowing first hand what happens to the victim's soul allows me to try to explain it ! to others, and remind myself of this event should I ever fall prey to the whims of desire.  I cannot begin to truely explain what this has done to me, but it goes far deeper than anyone except the victim can imagine, and the effects are permanent. 

Anyone who thinks of cheating on someone they love should first question that relationship and their love for the person whos life they are about to destroy.

 Daniel