My name is Becky and I'm a junior in college. I am majoring in psychology, aspiring to one day be a neuropsychologist. I am always the one that my friends go to for advice about their relationships, and I enjoy that.

I am currently single, and I have to say I've been in quite a few relationships, testing out to see what suits me and what doesn't. It's early enough in the game for me to do this, so later on I won't get stuck with toad when I could have had a prince if I had known what to look for. My longest relationship was a year and a half, but my most serious was 8 months. I enjoy having a boyfriend but I won't stay in a relationship with someone who isn't right for me.

My Philosophy

Well, I already pretty much summed up what I feel about relationships. If it's not the right person, and one is sticking with it, the only effect will be a hindering of emotional growth and limiting of one's opportunites. In each relationship, one grows if he/she is able to recognize their needs and what is right/wrong for them. With anyone you take a risk to get involved, so one should not be afraid to take the risk to be alone. It is the very nature of relatioships that gives us insight into who we are, so it is important to be in a relationship with someone who maximizes there partner's capabilites. There isn't a soul out there who should ever sell themselves short.

My Point of View

I think I that I would be able to offer a unique perspective to the readers. I come from a a dysfunctional family background, where anything that could be wrong in a relationship was wrong.

With my parents, their love was and still is a poison. For many years I tried to " save" my parents and it wasn't until the end of high school I realized that I had to save myself from following in their footsteps and getting caught into the same dynamic. I have seen practically everthing there is to see, and I have vowed to myself that since I have an awareness of what is unhealthy, I will meet every end to not make the mistakes of my parents.

Since I had known what " bad" relationships are composed of, I still had yet to learn about what makes a couple " good" together. Over my parents' will, since they were very much dissapproving, I went into therapy for a year where I mastered the tools I needed to be able to live my life as a healthy adult.

– Becky