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I
have had my share of first dates. I find it important to establish
"hand" in these affairs. Who will be alpha and who will
be submissive. Who will be the gift and who will be the receiver.
Who is the revered and who the reveree. Once that is established,
we can go on to the business of actually getting to know more
about each other.
Some first dates are inquisitions. I have been grilled about my
job, my friends, my offspring requirements, my health. This is
good preparation for job interviewers, telemarketers, government
survey takers, parents, etc. Although it is good practice, it
doesn't bode well for the date. The other person involved with
this date may become cognizant of this as my answers become more
imaginative.
Some first dates become escape attempts. I realize that I don't
want to be with this woman. I envision activities that I would
rather be doing. I imagine how to be doing those activities rather
than being longer in the present company. As visualization merges
with reality, escape is achieved.
And then there are the first dates that are actually pleasurable.
In psychological behavior experimentation, it has been shown that
random positive reinforcements tend to greatly increase a connected
activity. I'm still going on first dates. I do remember actually
connecting with women and being glad that we spent time together.
It happens.
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