I agree because this woman needs to realize that she also had a part to play in this situation as well. i peronally thinkthat she knows that and that she is trying to put the blame somewhere else, in order toease her own conscience. I clarify that statement, i think that she needs to accept what has been done in the past and move on. I bet she is a wonderful person who genuinely cares about people, that is evident in her concern for the ex-wife. But, she needs to accept her own faults and try and help to mend some of the brokes hearts and broken family bonds that have been severed. This family has been torn apart by this relationship and that needs to be fixed. My best advice for her is to accept what has happened in the past and now move on and forgive herself for her own mistakes and downfalls.

Shirley