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Dear Stuck-
 Does
it make you feel any better if I tell you you're not alone?
I can't tell you how many guys I've broken up with for being
"too nice". Its true, myself included, chicks
 (and
I say it like that because we don't always deserve the respect
we get) like men. MEN. Manly men.
We
Need a Challenge
Its nice to
have a friend, companion and all that lovey dovey stuff, but
we need someone that challenges us.
Okay, I'll speak for myself: I want my man to disagree with
me enough that I know he has his own opinion, but not so much
that we have nothing to agree on. I want my man
to make
decisions for "us", even if I may initially get mad
at the decision he has made. I want my man to challenge
me intellectually so that I know his mind goes beyond Sportscenter
and he knows mine hasn't crossed over to Mrs. Cleaver's.
Don't fret. Just check yourself. Do you have more female
than male friends?
 This
is a sure sign that you are too nice. And that's not a
bad thing. But as you've learned, being too nice can challenge
your ability to have a relationship last.
Men
need to be assertive
This is not to tell you to be a jerk and the girls
will come, but assert yourself and be proud to be a man.
Don't be a
 doormat
and don't always let us have our way. We like hard to
get (sometimes). Don't be a macho jerk, but don't
be a wuss, either. Be that elusive mystery man that every
woman wants to know, not the "friend" that we all
have but would never date.
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