Dear Panel,

A few months past, my girlfriend broke off our relationship to be with another man. That was painful, but the realization that ALL my ex-girlfriends have left me for other men dwarfed that initial pain.

I consider myself a gentleman who attends their every need. My guy friends have told me that they break up with me because I'm too much of a wuss. They continue to say that I should become a macho control freak; "women say they hate it but they secretly love it".

When I've asked my platonic ex-girlfriends, they say it was their fault that the relationship ended, it was nothing I did.

The fact that all six major relationships ended this way makes me feel it's my fault, and I don't think acting  like a macho jerk will help any future relationships. HELP!

 - Stuck in a bad loop