Dear Coppertop-

You have put up your defenses because your experiences have told you to.  There is nothing wrong with that

Don't lump men together.

. Not all men are lying assholes, however, most of them are.

Why don't you look around you, at your fellow women?

 

It's all about ulterior motives for most people and the talent comes in deciphering the ones whose ulterior motive is to get laid from the ones whose ulterior motives is to have a happy life with family and kids and the whole 9 yards.

The way to decipher ulterior motives is by watching actions, not words.

   If we didn't all want something from each other, there would never be any relationship problems because there would be no relationships.  

You just need to open up a bit and be slightly vulnerable if you want to give this guy at work a chance.

"Slightly vulnerable"?   Well - you need wild abandon.

If you're too abrasive you might lose your shot.   On the other hand, don't make it easier for him to lie to you than it is to tell the truth show him that you trust him by your actions and statements and he will never have reason to lie.

-Alicia