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Dear Panel,

What do I do? I am 16 and I am very attracted to someone significantly older than I am. And he treats me well, I've known him for ever, and well the only problem is he used to be the vice principal of my school and well he doesnt know that I am in love with him. Also, i recently went to visit him in another state and i wanted something to happen but nothing did.

My question is should I tell him I like him, considering the fact that i have liked him for over 4 years, or should I keep it to myself and forget about it? help me please....

Ms M & M's

Hope Answers:

Yuck! Drop this like a hot potato and run the other direction!! You're 16 -- being in a relationship with him is not only

Yeah, she should look up the Mann Act.

unhealthy, but it is also illegal. (You are a minor.)

Putting that aside, he obviously isn't interested anyway. Look at it from his perspective: what would a high school vice principal have in common with a teenager?

He could be the type that would want to use her.

How could you have a meaningful relationship with someone who you view as a child? Not to mention that you could probably lose your job (or worse) over it?

You are in two totally separate stages in life, intellectual levels, etc. If you forget him and move on, you will eventually find someone closer to your age who will be able to relate to you on your level.

You said you have liked him for four years. That would mean that you were 12 when this infatuation started. I don't mean to sound condescending, but at age 12, hardly anyone knows what makes a good relationship, what love is, etc.

She might want to look at the answers to "Should I love my Boss?"

Having a "crush" on your teacher or someone who is older or in a position of authority is common. But most people realize that it is merely an infatuation. The sooner you put this out of your mind and realize that it is just an infatuation, the sooner you will be able to move on and form more appreciate relationships with people closer to your age.

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