Maybe HE'LL want to take it slower this time around?  Naaaaah, I wouldn't depend on that.  I do not know if he'll be all right with a slower approach.  It's been my experience that if two people are mutually attracted and have had a good romantic experience together, once those hormones start raging it's pretty hard to stop further action.  I think it's difficult to go backwards in a relationship, and often baggage will get picked up by one party or the other from that backwards effort.

But what the heck,

If he doesn't accept her rules -- it's because he was just trying to get a piece.

if you really do want to date this guy at your own pace, explain your feelings to him and get his feedback.  He certainly has the choice of whether to accept your dating rules or to move on in a new city.

Lefty