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Dear Panel,

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months. We are really serious. This is my first really serious relationship, and it is like nothing i have ever felt before. This comming year, however, he is going to collage, and I will still be in high school. We are less than a year apart in age, but 2 years in school. I am afraid that we will be living totally different lives, which will cause us to grow apart. I dont want to loose him, but I am afraid that this difference will cause us to break up. Is there any way I can help prevent this from happening. afraid of heartbreak

PsychoBabylonBabe Answers:

The feeling of love for another is a wonderful thing. The first time you feel love for someone is a special event that you will always cherish and remember. There is a very trite phrase that says:

And even if it's true love....people change.

"if you love someone let him go, and if it is true love he will come back to you."

This is truly a meaningful phrase for your situation. Sometimes when you want to hold on to something so much, you end up stifling the relationship and lose exactly what you are trying to keep.

If you own a pet and you tightly hang on to it when it doesn't want to be held, you cause the animal to become tense and anxious, and when it finally wrestles itself away from you, it runs as far as it can to avoid being captured again. But if you hold the pet gently and caress it when it wants to be caressed, and let it leave when it is ready, you will find your pet wanting to jump back on you lap and receive your love again and again.

Give your boyfriend the freedom to decide what it is that he wants. Hold on to the relationship gently. You also need to develop what is important for you in your life while he is away. Make friends an important part of your life.

It is difficult to imagine but this relationship may be just one of many that you will experience in your lifetime. So enjoy what you have now, make your friends an important part of your life, and be open to the changes that you face.

– PsychoBabylonBabe

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