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Dear Reader,
Whew!!! What a question! Well, the first question that popped on
my mind was HOW COME YOU DIDN'T NOTICE WHEN YOU WERE KIDS?
Love Is All That Matters
Then I thought a while and another question that came up was WHO
CARES IF HE'S GAY, DO YOU LOVE HIM?! LOVE IS ALL THAT MATTERS!!.
Well, after that I realized that you are just a teener and you
do expect a lot from a boyfriend at this age. By the way, did you
have any boyfriends other than him? Because considering the time
that you two have this relationship you must feel a lot for him
and the same goes for him, too. I mean since Kindergarten! Hello?!
Only you can find out if he's really gay or not, but based on the
things you said, he does have a SOFT spot, get it? Or his femininity
could be dominant (all men do have these side). HOMOSEXUALITY is
a cultural thing you know, how you were brought up on viewing MEN
or MASCULINITY might be a reason.
If you really value the stereotypical male, which has big muscles,
fights and is macho in form, then you have to decide. Obviously,
you are raised in that belief.
Well, to tell you straightly, a man even if he does not posess
those traits but loves women is a man. And to comment on him always
worrying what he look like, well, there are a lot of vain men you
know (Reggie from the Archie's, remember?!) and MAYBE he just wants
to look good knowing that you're there!
Talking about other people's lives is indeed nasty. One must treat
other individuals with respect. Maybe you guys were too harsh on
gays and the way he was brought up was not that way. You know? I
do think you understand. In terms of doing the physical stuff, do
you mean SEX? Other than kissing? Well this is another issue of
his morals. He may not want to go to bed with you unless you're
married. Same rule applies, you might view men as a guy who sleeps
with the woman, whether he loves her or not! See the point?
To end, I do say that you check your preferences, do you like the
typical male or this type (each one is different you know). ONLY
YOU! Can check if he's what you think he is.
BE OBSERVANT! If you found out that he had a boyfriend before the
decision is still up to you. IN THE END, LOVE rules..... I mean
if you love him continue, if not and you still had these doubts
then decide!
Tell Him the Trunks Don't Look Good
About the trunks, hmm..... I think as a girlfriend, tell him it
doesn't look good on him! Hehehe! (The point here is that you can
change the way he dress or act, BUT realize that you cannot change
a person for what he is and how he was brought up, that would be
futile.)
Thanks for writing and I do hope I helped you out!
– Gilbert
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