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Dear Panel,

Hi, I'm a 23 y.o female who met a wonderful guy 6 months ago. We both fell for each other quickly and moved just as fast.  4 months into the relationship I find out he is in a very unhappy marriage and wants out of the marriage.  I was shocked and unbelievably depressed I listened to my friends and tried to move on regardless of his sincere feelings for me but it's hard to move on when that person became your best friend and he won't leave you alone, and I wasn't sure I wanted him to leave me alone.  [...]

This is way too much for me I would really like to keep him in my life just as friend maybe date casually but deep down I know he's not the one for me, so why do I get depressed when I'm away from him even though he drives me crazy??  What do I do to get my life back on track?? Please help asap. Thanks.

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Too Confused
 

Lefty Answers:

Dear Too Confused,

He is using her ambivalence to manipulate her.

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You're not TOO confused.  You're just pussyfooting around what you have to do.

This guy is not Mr. Wonderful.  He's Mr. Jerkoff.  He waits 4 months to tell you he's married?  Give me a break.  I would guess that he's at least one reason why his marriage is unhappy.  How long do you think another of his marriages would last?  And puleeeeeese...giving up everything to be with you?  What up with that?  If his marriage were truly unhappy and unworkable, he'd be getting out of it for himself.

This guy is bad news.  You know that.

Here is the letter she should send him...

aliciaLtin.gif He's already hurt you once.  Why give him another chance?  Dump him and get on with your life.  He's a user.

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