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Dear Panel,

I am a 16 year old girl who recently got physically intimate with my best friend.(just for the record we did not have sex) He is now going around calling me a slut to everyone we know (we have a lot of mutual friends). I am so hurt by this and it is causing a major stir with all of our friends. No one knows who to believe. I don't know what to do. I realize that we were both too immature to handle the feelings that came along with our actions but I can't really turn back time and stop it. Should I try to talk to him and reconcile our friendship or should I forget about the jerk? I must also mention that I never said a harsh word

about him or thought badly of him after what happened.

Hope Answers:

How strange! He is just as guilty as you are of getting physically intimate, so why is he criticizing you? Wouldn't his insults also apply to himself?

I think he is criticizing her because something else is going on.

Anyway, it sounds like you learned a valuable lesson from this experience. I would move on... If he is treating you so poorly, then is the friendship really worth having? Would a true friend treat you like that? Is that the kind of friend you would like to have?

However,

More important than forgiving him is stopping the rumors.

I think you need to honestly forgive him in your heart before you can truly "move on." If you don't sincerely forgive him, your feelings of anger or disappointment may cause you to harbor resentment toward him. This will make it awkward and difficult to move on, especially when you bump into him or your mutual friends.

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