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Dear
Full of Regrets:
I feel like I am missing part of the story. "Slut"
is a pejorative term; being called that by your "best
friend" is not to be expected. I might not
be too surprised if he mentioned his sexual experiences
to his friends in an attempt to get a handle on the
feelings that arose as the result of an important encounter.
Or, to put it another way, I'm not shocked that he's
boasting about his (near) sexual conquest. That's
what a lot of us immature males like to do
. 
But why is he saying such negative things about you?
Reading between the lines, I might guess that either:
- Something bad/odd happened in your encounter to
disturb him.
- He was never as "good" a friend as you
thought.
- You've
heard what he's said through other people and he didn't
really say/mean calling you a slut.
- I'm all wet and the situation is exactly the way
you described it.
In order to eliminate any misunderstandings, I would
suggest that you confront this guy and make sure that
you are clear about his intents, although most males
do tend to dissemble when confronted. If this
situationhappened to me,
I know that **I** would be plenty pissed off and would
probably think it's past time to pick another best friend.
As an aside, you mention that you were both too "immature"
to handle your feelings. And you say you were
"physically intimate" but "did not have
sex". I do think that it is appropriate for
people your age to experiment, and I seem to remember
that dancing, holding hands, maybe stealing a kiss,
etc., are pretty cool and exciting. I don't know
how far you guys went, and from what happened it's a
darn good thing you did not have sex, but I will say
that with even a kiss he could have called you names
if it disturbed him, and it very well might have.
You have the right to be supported by your good friends
and to pick other good friends, for both support and
friendship and future romantic interests.
Lefty
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