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It could
be that you act differently around the men that you
are attracted to, which causes them to steer clear of
you. Maybe you unknowingly become more quiet or shy
around them. On the other hand, maybe you are overly
aggressive or flirtatious with them, pushing them away.
It could also be that you are looking for the wrong
type of man,
so it never seems to work out with the ones you are interested
in. I fell into this trap before I got married. I had
a vision of the type of man that I wanted -- the popular,
"macho" jock type, who was usually good looking
(but only on the outside!). It seemed like this type of
man was never initially attracted to me, but I pushed
the issue to make something happen, only to be burned
every time.
When I started focusing on inward qualities instead
of the outward, that is when I found the love of my
life -- my husband -- a godly, considerate, fun, and
sensitive man. I was not initially attracted to him
physically, but when I discovered the treasure that
he is inwardly, I also discovered how handsome and attractive
he is on the outside. I just didn't see it at first,
because he didn't "fit the mold."
So, whether you are around a man you are attracted
to, or one to whom you are not, don't try to be or act
like anything, but just be yourself, relax, and let
it happen in it's own time. It may take some time before
"Mr. Right" shows up, but try to be patient
and live your life to the fullest in the meantime.
I think you should also seriously think about what qualities
you are looking for in a man, and consider whether the
men who seem to be attracted to you might actually be
a better match after all! (You may be surprised!)
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