Reader Confused Responds:
I Still Feel Threatened
I am the author of this question and I appreciate all the
points of view. This has been a very complicated time for
me and my husband. I had no idea that he was doing all this
online stuff and I felt (and still feel) a little threatened
by it because if things are good at home, why should he
need to look anywhere else.
I Don't Want To Open Old Wounds
I also spoke with a male friend of mine and tried to get
his point of view of the whole situation and he said in
a way it is like looking at magazines or movies. Things
outside the bedroom are good, we are good friends and we
tell each other everthing. We go on dates with one another,
watch movies together and go for walks etc. I know
he has still done the online things occasionally, and I
want to question him on it, but I don't want to bring up
old wounds that are still in the healing process.
He Shares His Fantasies with Me
I have found that we are both very sexual people.
Our situation has brought out the best in me sexually as
I don't feel weird about sexual expression anymore, since
he gets me to tell him about my fantasies and he shares
his with me (no matter what they are). I have to say that
I never thought that we could be closer than what we are
now.
I Feel More Secure
Compared to how I felt when I first asked the panel this
question and today, I feel much more secure in our relationship
and more open. We are communicating more with one another,
which is a BIG thing. We express our love to one another
in more ways outside the bedroom than inside the bedroom.
Thanks for your opinions.
– confused (but only a little anymore)
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