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Leaving
behind somebody that you really care about is never
easy. But from experience, being the one left
behind is much, much harder. Your boyfriend, if
your sentiments are shared, is going to have a hard
time with you leaving.
At 16 anything can happen, and I f you really care
about him, you have to be realistic with yourself and
with him. You are going to a foreign country.
Keeping in touch is going to be hard, even if you have
e-mail, telephones and instant messenger. All
the technology can't make 30 hours in a day.
In Europe you are going to be so excited to take in
as much as you can that for you, writing every couple
days might feel like a lot, but on his end, receiving
only every other day can feel like an eternity.
You need to really think about how you want this relationship
to go. In no way would I ever tell you not
to go to France. The opportunity to travel to
Europe is something that doesn't happen to everybody.
 On
the other hand, if at 16 you've decided this guy is the
one, talk to him about it. Ask him how he feels
about it. See if he can wait for you.
Also know that you are going to meet a lot of new people
and you could be the one that can't wait. Be honest,
but don't worry too much. Just go, have fun,
and
be honest, with yourself and with him, when you return.
You may find you've grown in a way he hasn't, or changed
in a way that makes the two of you staying together impossible.
You may find that you missed him so much your relationship
is intensified. Whatever happens, you will grow
as a person in ways you can't even imagine right now.
A word of consolation: my sister has had the same boyfriend
since she was 15. She is now 21. Her boyfriend
has spent the last three summers working here while
she has spent 3 months in Japan, 3 months in Belgium
and Germany, and 3 months in Italy. They are still
together, still strong, and have not had any problems
with cheating or losing the love they have for each
other. If your relationship is right, everything
will work out just fine.
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