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Dear
Leaving Too Soon,
You've piqued my interest by saying, "You don't
know the sacrifices he's willing to make."
Hmmm...what sacrifices do YOU expect him to make?
Do you expect him to sit by the phone/computer only
sending messages to you? Do you expect him to
join a monastery? Do you expect him to shun all
communications with his peer group, including social
development group activities (ok, parties)?
And, um, I hate to ask this, but what sacrifices do
YOU expect to make? Are you going to do all the
previous? Are you not going to meet new French
people, INCLUDING boys?
One
 of
the good things about having a S.O. when I'm traveling
is that it makes me feel grounded. It relieves some
of the homesickness when I give that person a call to
shoot the breeze, or to say hello, or just to send an
occasional letter. I try not to overdo it because
I am in a new place, trying to gain new experience, meet
new people, and grow.
But
it makes me feel good to have occasional contact, and
I think it makes my S.O. feel good too. And you
know, that is really no sacrifice at all, for either of
us.
I know that this relationship means a great deal to
you. But come on, you're only 16. Don't
start obsessing over relationships until you're at least
25. This may work out so that you both miss each
other and resume your relationship when you get back.
Or it can be that you've both grown and changed and
have different interests. Talk with your boyfriend,
maybe start off with telling him your fears, and end
with both of you deciding to have a good time for 6
months and looking forward to seeing each other afterwards.
Lefty
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