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Of course it is
normal. Relationships are scary, even for people who have
"experience" - being vulnerable to another person is never
easy. What you call "experience" is also scary - particularly
if you've been hearing a lot of stories from your friends, TV, and
even parents and teachers, and none of the stories seem to match.
If you are scared,
that is your instincts telling you that you are not quite ready
to jump into a new situation. Trust your instincts - if you
learn how to trust them now you will save yourself a lot of pain
later on in life (believe me, I know plenty of adults who haven't
learned how to trust their instincts yet and it has caused them
nothing but heartache!)
Take your time and
go at a pace that is comfortable for you. Or don't go at all
- there is plenty of time to change your mind later. (Although
if you choose to move too fast you CAN'T take that back!)
The best people
to ask for advice and to ask questions about their experiences are
adults you trust.
Parents
are good, but so are aunts, uncles, older siblings, or even a teacher
you are close to. Everyone else your age is still trying to
figure things out themselves, so may not be the most reliable sources
of information.
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