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That's
a tough situation, because you could potentially lose
this friendship. Relationships come and go, but a true
friend is a real treasure. On the other hand, there
may be potential for this relationship to blossom into
something special.
I think you need to figure out exactly what your feelings
are for him. You say that after he started calling you,
you fell in love with him. That could mean many different
things... What you're feeling could be infatuation.
Maybe you're flattered that he is paying attention to
you. People "fall" in and out of love quite
easily because what they feel is often infatuation.
And feelings change over time. However, true love does
not. It is a commitment that will go the distance. It
is built upon a solid friendship, and it is a choice
-- a commitment -- to put the needs of the other above
yourself and to demonstrate an unselfish devotion to
one another.
So, having said that, I think the best thing to do
is to seriously determine if you are experiencing infatuation
for him or if there is potential for a real love to
develop between
the two of you. Take a good honest look at his character.
Does he have the qualities you are looking for? If what
you are feeling is a mere infatuation or a fleeting excitement
about
someone
new, it is not worth losing a best friend over it.
Regardless of what you do, the most important thing
is to be extremely sensitive and considerate of your
friend's feelings. Don't try to hide the relationship
from her. Be honest with her!
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