Reader Chris responds:
The Rut
It seems to me that most of the people I run accross are
so stuck in this "oh gosh I have to have somebody to feel
special" rut that they fail to realize that it is not absolutely
neccessary to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. You will not
die if you are not dating anyone. Most people simply do
not understand how that can be.
Dateless and Doing Well
I never had the luxury of dating anyone in my life –
I'm 22 now and am on my way to an extemely successful career.
I was in the time where girls didn't like you if you looked
a little bit different. Not like the elephant man or anything...the
type of guy girls still thought were cute but when they
saw this jock [who turned out to be a jerk] they automatically
go for him).
My Paycheck Shuts Them Up
Some of the other guys I know think I'm pathetic because
I've never been on a date – of course, when they look
at my paycheck compared to theirs, it usually shuts them
up.
They're still at the McDonalds raking in $6,000 a year
while I will be raking in over $60 GRAND a year as a 25-year-old.
Not a Disadvantage
By my lack of dating experience I was able to turn a disadvantage
(or what I thought at the time was a disadvantage) into
an advantage by concentrating on the more important things
in life – like my future. Girls will come when the
time is right. They will fit into your future.
Girls? Who CARES?
My advice: don't be worried about it so much – you're
only 16. If girls like you – great. If not, WHO CARES??
There are two things you should dedicate yourself to:
- helping those you care about, and
- helping yourself.
Hang in there, man – I've been in your place before.
With proper planning and prioritizing you will get better
– I promise.
– Chris
Male, age 22
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