Nick, first of all, your confidence in yourself should not come from having a girlfriend. Having a girlfriend does not indicate the quality of person that you are. You are special and significant because God created you for a purpose. There is no one else like you, and He loves you more than you could ever realize. Now that's special!

Many times the nicest, sweetest guys are the ones that don't have girlfriends because the girls are too

That may be why the guys that where the most popular in high school don't end up the happiest.

superficial at your age to care about the things that really matter in a relationship. As you get older, however, you will see that the kind of girls that are worth dating are the ones who will appreciate these qualities in you.

Having said that, here is the type of guy I think the "worthwhile" girls are looking for:

1. He is caring and considerate of her feelings and needs, but at the same time he is confidant in himself.
2. This means that he is not cocky, or macho, but looks out for her interests more than his own.

   So I'm not worthwhile?

   (He is considerate and respectful of her.)
3. He is mature. This means that he is not trying to impress his friends, but he does what is right.
4. He loves her with the true meaning of the word. (God defines what true love is for us in 1 Corinthians 13. See my bio for a description!)
5. He is interesting and fun to be around, which means that he can carry on an intelligent conversation and make her laugh once in a while.
6. He takes care of himself and his appearance. (He does not have to be "gorgeous,"

   But, how do you become confident in your appearance?

   but he has to be clean, well dressed, and confident in his appearance.)

Keep in mind that there are some very superficial people out there who will be looking only for a "good time" or for someone who will impress their friends with wealth or looks. But don't you want someone who likes you for more than the car you drive or the way you look? How far will that relationship go if it is built on something as superficial as a nice car? What happens if you lose it one day in an accident? Does she take a hike? Do you want to eventually marry someone who loves you only for your looks? What happens as you begin to age?

You can't expect to find the ideal man or woman.

Will she still love you?You should not only seek to be the right person, but you should look for the right person; someone who will appreciate you and who will reciprocate the love and respect that you give to her.