Dear Panel,

I have been involved in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 6 months now. He is my first boyfriend and I have trouble expressing my feelings to him about things in our relationship that trouble me. How do I get past this?

For instance, a couple months ago, I found out that he was receiving nude pics of other men on the Internet in his e-mail. I acted like it didn't bother me, but it really does, because some of the messages that are attached to the pics imply that he had cyber-sex with them. I wonder if it's cheating for him to do that, and if I talk to him about it, how do I bring it up? Will he think that I am trying to control him? I don't want to tell him what to do, but I need reassurance that he wont find anyone in our area and have an affair.

My self esteem is very low anyway, and I don't want to lose him...What do I do? As you can see, I'm very confused. Can you help me? Thanks a lot!

– grizzy

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