Dear Heartbroken in College,

I think you're going to have to start imagining being without your boyfriend.  As a matter of fact, it sounds like it won't take any imagination at all.  College is a very broadening experience and your boyfriend may be looking forward to the full broadening experience.

Why do you assume the worst? He could just be confused.

  He may be like a lot of us guys and just be too cowardly to tell you face-to-face or even tell you the whole truth. 

And the whole truth might be that he is interested in other women, or just interested in pursuing other women.  I'm sure he still has feelings for you, but he may want to experiment now.  I would expect that this would be difficult to discuss with you, because it is telling you that you are not his be-all and end-all, yet he may not know what he really is looking for; just that there are mungo opportunities opening up in the college environment.

Whatever.  As I have said before, there are (at least) two things that you can never ask for in a relationship, and they are related. (I may actually have heard this from Mr. Sensitive, a very long time ago.)  You cannot ask someone to like you more; and you cannot ask someone to want to spend more time with you.

I think that you are right in that you do deserve a face-to-face talk, at least for closure.

The only way she is going to get closure is by writing a good-bye letter.

I don't understand how you think that that meeting will help him see his mistake, unless of course you plan on trying to seduce him, which certainly has worked on men in the past.  But I think that would be your mistake.

Talk with your boyfriend, make sure that there are no misunderstandings,

It doesn't matter what he is saying betwwen the lines.

try to read between the lines for what he may not be saying, and also try to form a mutual agreement about the relationship.  I think you would be wise to give him some space and focus on other things for awhile like your own college experience.  Good luck.

Lefty