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Dear
Confused,
Hey, I know some people who never seem to get past
the second date. They would probably think you're
lucky to last a whole month. Unless, of course,
you average 2 dates a month.
You matter-of-factly state that your relationships
don't last more than a month yet you spend absolutely
no time analyzing it here. I'm sure you must have
spent SOME time thinking about it. Is the way
you break up the same for every relationship?
Do you ever remain friends with the guys? What
are their reasons for dropping you?
 There
is obviously something going on, and you should take steps
to find out what it is, either by asking friends who you
trust to give you honest feedback, or forcing those guys
to give you an exit interview. Or maybe even visiting
a non-partial therapist.
I do know what you mean by wanting to throw in the
towel on relationships.
When a girlfriend dumps me, or it doesn't work out for
any reason, I too feel disillusioned, disappointed, and
dismayed. How can we not, if we like someone and
it doesn't work out--that's one of the risks we take in
trying to get into a relationship. I know that relationships
do work out for many of my friends. I also know
that I usually recover after awhile, thinking that I will
not repeat my old mistakes in a new relationship.
After all, isn't that the point of surfing at Love And
Learn?
There
seem to be plenty of people suffering as we are.
You should contact Eric
and see what's up with him! So figure out what's
wrong and get ready to take your next swing at the plate.
Lefty
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