I disagree because this kind of an answer is far too simplistic, and reveals an advice-giver who probably has never been in a similar situation.

As someone who is in a similar situation myself, I can tell you that I know damn well that forgetting it is for the best ... and that the more I bring it up the more and more guilty I'll make her feel and the more she'll want to leave.

So I know that forgetting it is for the best in the relationship--you don't need to tell me that. However, what you need to do is to offer ways that I can get past it, not just a simple directive to get past it somehow or someway.

Time heals all wounds, and I truly think that in time the reader will get over it, especially once they're married. But no one is saying it won't be hard for him to remember all his life that she's had two men and he's only had one woman ...

Hilfiga