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Here
is my situation, My husband left me in February, one week
after I had a hysterectomy. He left for his net girlfriend,
the divorce was final 6 months later. This was the second
time we were separated, this time he didn't ask me back before he
was remarried.
Anyway,
about 2 months before my divorce was final I met this guy I really
liked. I had gone out with other guys, but this guy seemed
special to me. We waited until my divorce was final before
we slept together. We have become really close and spent entire
weekends together went away for a weekend to a state park and had
a wonderful weekend. He had told me he was falling in love
with me.
Well
then my ex started having lots of problems ,
 ended
up in psy. hospital for a week or so and asked me to be friends
again and for us to go out together with the kids, he wanted to do
more things, and also complaining about his new wife to me.
I told him that it was over for him and me, anyway my boyfriend asked
me if I wanted him to stay away for awhile and I told him "no".
We have become so close since then and I opened up my heart and he
asked me if I was falling in love with him and I said "yes".
Well shortly after he says, "I need time". During this time
I talked to my boyfriend about 2 hours about everything that was going
on, I guess because of that he says I am still grieving, and that
is normal.
I
was married for 18 years, I am now 36, my boyfriend is 43,
he says he cares enough about me to see me grow and heal, he wants
to be friends for now,
just take things slow, he still wants to see me, he wants me to go
out with other guys, he doesn't want to be the rebound relationship,
he wants more, he says those kind of relationships don't last and
he wants more from me, he says if we are still together in a few years
then we will talk about what he had, he said he had actually fantasized
being married to me,
I
was sort of shocked about that, anyway now
he says I need time, he is scared I think because he was in a relationship
before right after his marriage with a woman that was separated and
she went back to her husband, he said it was wonderful and he felt
in love with her and it just ended and he didn't want to go through
that again.
So
I do not know if I should still be friends with him, I really care
for him, or just let him go, should I see other guys and if I do
,
 he
asks me questions about it and should I tell him, I am really
close to him, but I somehow think he isn't being as close to me as
I am being to him, he said he wanted our relationship to be more than
sex, he said he was taking a chance you know if you love something
let it go and if it comes back then true love, when I didn't call
him because I took it he wanted to break up with me he said he missed
my calls and still wanted to talk to me, and he never told me he wanted
to break up with me, he still wants to see me, just slow things down
some, I feel like I should have never slept with him and told him
that , and I feel used, and he broke my heart, and I also told him
I really cared for him and I wasn't going to give up on him.
So
any advice, I have two kids, 7 and 12, he has custody of his 8 year
old daughter I have a good job, I have a masters degree, so any
advice on should I still see him or just let him go, he says he
wants to see me, see my smile, some people say he is just letting
me down easy, I don't know, maybe he is right I
do
need time, but if he cared about me why would he want me to be with
other guys, I am having a real hard time with this, I
trusted again and it seems like I got burned,
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