Dear Lorraina,

Leave this loser as fast as you can. His actions demonstrate that he obviously doesn't respect you or your feelings. But the bigger problem is his use of pornography.

We recently answered Sarah on a similar question at Love and Learn, so I will recap for you here what I told her:

Porn Ruins Lives

Pornography is an extremely destructive and addictive habit, and it will cause problems down the road guaranteed. Pornography has ruined many marriages and lives. It may seem harmless at first,

but it leads the viewer to crave deeper and more shocking images in order to be aroused. No longer are you satisfied with what you saw yesterday, but you need to go deeper to maintain the high. Because you begin living in a fantasy world, it ultimately leads to ruined marriages and relationships, because you cannot maintain a normal sexual relationship. (It will never satisfy you like the pornography does.)

Porn Will Lead To Worse Things

That statement is about as logical as saying that most sushi eaters started down that road by eating cooked fish.

It will suck you deeper and deeper in, like a drug. In fact, studies have shown that many men who commit rape have started down this road by their addiction to pornography.

His Heart Can't Be with You If He Looks at Porn

I disagree. It's possible to love someone and have sexual fantasies at the same time.

So, it is obvious that your boyfriend is being completely selfish by looking at pornography, especially since you already told him that it hurts you, and that seems to mean nothing to him. If your boyfriend needs to look at other girls to satisfy him, his heart couldn't be with you, especially since this is obviously hurting you. And the fact that he needs to look at this to satisfy him is a sign that he is disturbed. Dump him!!!

Don't Use the Other Man To Escape

Now, in regard to this other man at work, my advice to you is to be careful not to jump into another relationship to escape from the current one.

See the panelists answer to a previous question regarding rebound relationships.

Pursue a relationship with him only if you are sure that he has the right character qualities that you are looking for, and that you are ready for another relationship. In other words, don't settle for just anyone – seek a man who respects you completely! And regardless of whether Gary is the right one or not, I would still leave your current boyfriend and pursue someone better!

– Hope