I agree because I was recently in a similar situation with a younger man, I gave him my pager number months ago, only for him to page me 90 days later! Prior to that, whenever we got together, he only wanted to in a "designated" meeting place. A place where we could mess around and make out. He was all touchy-feelie with me all the time and when he finally did page me (he never took me out either), it was just for oral sex, or so it seemed.

After that I got ONE more page from him, (wow). At the end of this year the whole thing finally culminated into us making love. Big mistake on my part. I should have known better, because I feel like a complete cheap whore.

It also seemed like he never wanted his "friends" to see us together. If you ask me, that's pretty high school for a 26 year old man...(I'm 31). I should've told him if he wanted a whore I could have hired him one. He never contacted me again after that, and I have since gone to his house on one occasion just to talk, only to be chased out the door. What an ass, and I was an ass, also for letting him take advantage of me.

Honey, my advice to you is if you can accept the way things are going, than it might be right for you, for now. I advise to move on, though. Get away from the slob. Trust me, get that respect you so highly deserve for yourself back. You'll feel better in the long run. You're just asking to be run into the ground. Tell him to go get a blow up doll or something, for heaven's sake.

Antonia