I can tell that you really like her and that this is eating you up inside. I don't envy you in the slightest. I'm really touched by your desire to be a good friend to this girl, but I have to say -- I don't think *she* is being a very good friend to *you*.

This may be hard to see right now, but please don't put all your faith in someone who would listen to a boyfriend's request not to see you any more. You call her your best friend, and I imagine she considers you the same. It's hard for me to understand how she could stop spending time with you.

That is, unless she feels guilty because she does have feelings for you.

But the thing is, I think she made her choice by listening to her boyfriend's demand at the expense of your friendship. And I think there's a choice you need to make now. I want you to feel like you deserve to be with a girl who is proud of her feelings for you, and is also available to be in a relationship with you.

And maybe you should think about whether you have time for someone who only can be your friend on the sly. This isn't a good way to begin a relationship.

Be cautious.

- Gillian