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MikeyG -
There's
No Difference
In your case, there doesn't
seem to be any difference at all!
I'm going to guess that
you haven't had any physical relationship with your best friend
- but then, depending on how serious you and your girlfriend are
(and how old you are) you may not have had any physical relationhsip
with her either.
Let me ask you some
things:
- Do
you really love them both EXACTLY the same?
- How are the two
relationships different to you?
- Is one more meaningful
to you?
The reason I ask
is, you're going to have to make a choice.
Can you honestly
live with yourself leading both of these girls on (I guess not since
you wrote asking for advice)? You're going to have to decide
– are they both friends to you, or is one actually a girlfriend?
Set
Boundaries
Then you need to
let them both know where they stand. And set up boundaries
with the one who is just your friend - even though most of us love
our friends, we do NOT always tell them that we love them and need
them, etc. It rightfully makes our partners feel uncomfortable.
So, whichever one
is your friend - maybe both? You'll need to tell them that,
and tell them what you think a friend is, and tell them how you
want your relationship to be, and how you DON'T want it to be.
– Judith
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