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What should I think? My cousin would never introduce me to a guy that uses women. We are playing this game and I want control of it ... How do I get that? *Since he works in a night club, he has girls all over him all the time, he hates it... I think that is why he is attracted to me because I don't chase him.

Cousin

Judith Answers:

I think your instincts are right on. He is probably very interested in you because:

  1. You are a professional (always a good sign of responsibility and income!)
  2. Your cousin introduced you (good recommendations are important too)
  3. Huh? Just, what would it look like if she DID chase him?
    You are not chasing him but have not hidden the fact that you are interested (letting him know he can make a move if he gets up the courage!)
More comfortable? -- he knows exactly what he is doing?

These things may be just as intimidating as they are attractive. You might have to have a few more group outings with your cousin, too, before he feels comfortable calling. Just continue what you are doing; you don't sound like a chaser by nature so just continue to be interested when he approaches, calls, etc., but don't chase him down. It wouldn't match your personality or the type of interaction you have had so far.

That's not to say you couldn't ask your cousin for another night out! (Plus, even professionals need to get out sometimes.)

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