When I started reading your letter "jello shots" and "wandered into my room" were huge red flags that jumped off the page. They were not the "Meaningful Relationship Ahead" kind of red flags. They were the "Random Hookup" kind of red flags. But when I read further that you directed this guy not to tell any of his friends about it, I'm afraid the random hookingupness of this incident was confirmed. I hate to say it, but I think that your request for silence was basically giving him the heads up that this episode in random smooching was exactly that, random, and not relationship fodder.

I'm a little confused about why you seem to be wanting more than that now, after the fact. You barely know the guy, and all you seem to be able to say about him is that he is "pretty nice" and you "kind of like him." I think your pride might be a little hurt that this guy isn't courting you, but let's face it -- you don't even like him very much! You will someday meet a boy you really like (not just "kind of"), and then this thing with Nate will be a distant memory. (P.S. When you do meet that boy you really like, steer clear of the jello shots for the first few dates.)