Dear Snuffy (Suzie?),

Why is he avoiding you now? He may feel as awkward about this situation as you do. He may be getting peer pressure to not see you. He may be seeing other women. He may feel that he's getting mixed messages from you. He may be a jerk. All kinds of possibilities.

One weird thing to me is why you would avoid each other and hang out in different rooms after your intimacy. The world is a strange place when you have physical intimacy with someone and then you EXPECT them to not want to see you again. This is a bad theory to work from.

Since it is generally accepted in our culture that males are the aggressors, I would have expected him to call you by the next day or two to tell you that he enjoyed his time with you and to even perhaps try to get together again, if he were interested in pursuing a relationship with you. At the least, it would have been nice for him to have called you, just to talk things over. But he didn't.

Perhaps the next time you get physically intimate with a boy, you should take the time to get to know him and like him first, rather than start messing around with someone who seems kind of rude at best. Lefty