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Dear Young Singapore
Homewrecker,
It's really exciting
when someone you like likes you back, isn't it? Unfortunately, the
situation you're in is a very complicated one. Before getting involved
with this guy, you'll want to think very carefully about a few things.
He's Not Trustworthy
You know that when he
got married, he made a lifetime promise to his wife. Most people
would say he is breaking that promise by even expressing an interest
in you. That makes him a not very trustworthy person – is that
the kind of guy you want to be with?
He's
Either Weak, or He's Lying
He is an adult, and responsible
for his own actions. Getting married is a serious thing. He said
he was "forced" into it by his wife – that makes
him an incredibly weak person! The other possibility is that
he is lying to you. Neither option is very attractive.
I don't know the difference
in your ages, but it seems like there is a real difference in experience
here. I'm sure you don't feel it so much when you are flirting and
talking together, but realize that you are at a disadvantage.
He's been around the block
already – heck, he's been down the aisle – and you still
have a lot ahead of you, in romance and other areas of your life.
Imagine you do end up
with this guy. I think you would have a hard time trusting him later,
knowing how your relationship began. Would you want to live a life
where you always felt suspicious of your partner?
If you re-read your letter,
I think you'll see that you answered your own question. You say
you don't want to get hurt, yet you see yourself ending up hurt
if you start up with him. Listen to your instincts on this one.
This guy seems like one to avoid.
– Gillian
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