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Dear Young Singapore
Homewrecker,
While it's possible
you and I may come from different cultures, what I'm going to advise
will still hold true regardless. You know what you should
do, I think you answered your own question. But let's explain
why.
Find
Relationships Worth Your Time and Energy
You are 14 years
old. And while you don't mention how old he is, I feel sure
that if he is married (and this is where the possible culture differences
come into play) he is probably quite a bit older than you are. At
the age of 14, you need to understand that you have a lifetime to
find love and relationships worthy of your time and energy.
Relationships where you won't second-guess yourself.
He's
Married
You are young and
just because you like him now does not mean he's the right person
for you right now. Obviously, because he's married! ¨
He says he married his wife because she made him. Again, there
is a possibility that we are dealing with a cultural issue wherein
the families strongly suggested that due to their behavior, they
should marry. However, my personal feeling is no one can make
you choose that type of a commitment.
He married her and chose
to make that commitment. It is a serious commitment –
and apparently one you value if you say you don't want to be a home
wrecker. Go with that instinct of not being a home wrecker.
While I frankly
don't believe you probably will be a home wrecker, whether he likes
you or not, cheating - or the
intention to cheat
- is a symptom of a bigger problem within the marriage and has little
or nothing to do with the person outside of the marriage.
But think about
it, if he's willing to lie to his family, his wife, his wife's family,
most of his friends, his colleagues at work, etc. then he's
willing to lie to you, so why involve yourself with him?
All in all, you
said you don't want to be a home wrecker or get hurt - so don't.
Pursuing this "relationship" WILL hurt you in the end.
Don't
Choose Relationships That Hurt Others
And trust me, you
don't want to be in relationships that hurts you and other people
(such as a wife).
– Narissa
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