|
Dear Daisy,
Before I answer this question, let me give you a bit of background
about me so you understand my point of view. I'd have to say I've
been blessed with having a strong tie with my family. Not to say
we're the Brady Bunch, or that we constantly keep in touch, but
there's an unspoken, unwritten bond there. A bond that can't be
broken very easily, if at all.
I have the feeling, based on what you've written, that you also
have that bond. If you're selfless enough to move in with your mom
due to her financial woes, then you're a wonderful daughter in my
book. She spent most of your life raising you, so you coming to
her rescue is the least you could do, and I commend you. There needs
to be more people like you around.
It Sounds Like An Overreaction
Now, on to your beau. A lost job can be a big blow to a guy's ego.
Having him move in with you, which happens to be the same place
your mom lives, and I'm sure his tail is tucked between his legs.
He's probably overly-sensitive to criticism, so perhaps this ultimatum
was an overreaction?
Your mom had a valid and reasonable position, your boyfriend, on
the other hand, sounded a bit temperamental.
Talk to him once his jets are cooled to see if he can be more levelheaded
about his position.
Boys Come And Go, But Family Is Forever
Not working? OK, so perhaps he's serious and this ultimatum is
for real. Then keep one thing in mind: boyfriends come and go, but
your mom will be with you FOREVER!!!
You're helping your mom out of love. Clearly, this sense of family
didn't come out of nowhere. And that family value shouldn't have
to be compromised by an "outsider."
Now, kids would complicate this relatively simple formula, and
it's not too clear from your discourse whether you actually have
kids, but even then your priority should be to your family. And
if he's your boyfriend, he's not your family.
No doubt, this would be a tough choice, one which shouldn't have
even presented itself to you. But if you had to choose sides, picking
your family is always a good bet.
–
|
