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I wrote him a heart to heart letter telling him all of my feelings for him. He did say he would respond but 6 months passed and it seemed to have slipped his mind but he's still flirting and stuff as always.

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Female, age 37, USA

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Dear Panel,

I have worked with a man for over 20 year now and fell in love with a long the way. I never told him until last year because he is married and I respect that very much but felt it was time he should know.

I Told Him How I Feel

We flirt and care for one another very much and do this dance. I wrote him a heart to heart letter telling him all of my feelings for him. He did say he would respond but 6 months passed and it seemed to have slipped his mind but he's still flirting and stuff as always.

I wrote another letter which put it right on the line and told him how I felt and what all this flirting makes me feel.. I asked him to come see me or for coffee to talk about it and for him to tell me how he felt.

He Rejected Me

He told me the next time I seen him that he could only have relationship with his wife and that he had bee married for over20 years now. I took this hard but only respond to his statement with I understand.

He then right after that flirted with me touching my neck and making note of my birthday .. I was shocked but thought it might have been him just feeling sorry for hurting my feelings. The next few times I was with him he was happy to see me flirting and getting close to me and I try to keep my distance and make no notice of him other to deal on a profession work relationship with him or just say nothing at all.

He seemed hurt and upset by my coldness and even tried to joke with me which he ended up making a disrespectful remark which he made a point to say he was just joking and I would not give him any responds at all on and just went on doing my work.. He knew I was pissed and didn`t fine it funny at all but looked at me and said well I guess you don`t know I was just joking with you then before he would drop it..

Does He Like Me?

Then it was right back to flirting with me and touchy my hands and standing close again.. My question here in a nut shell is: if after I told him of my feeling and he knew how he made me feel and that I very much and still do want him, and I respect him for very much just not the way he told me or how he seems to have feeling for me and flirting with me still. What is going on? Does he like me and have feeling for me? or what??

He has to know this hurts me for him to have told me he can only stay with his wife and still play flirty with me and want my affections still. Right? What is going on with him? HELP!

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Female, age 37, USA

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