insensitive and assumed a lack of trust that you assumed was
not an issue. At least it is ok to be upset for a while.
But if you can't let go of it, it is a good sign that the relationship
as a whole troubles you. You have good reasons:
- You have been physically hurt in the past by this person
- You have been emotioanlly hurt by this person
- This person is "getting on track" but that doesn't
mean that he is "cured" - it is hard to trust
that his outbursts and violence are over for good.
When he shows that there is a lack of trust on his part it
would be very difficult to trust that 1, 2, and 3 above are
resolved.
I won't say that things can never work out for you - in fact,
having a child together and a long term relationship may help
it to happen. I would caution against moving back in
together any time soon. You both have some serious issues
to work out, particularly you. Can you be comfortable
and feel that your physical and emotional well-being are safe
with this person? Obviously not yet. He needs
the opportunity to show he is trustworthy, and you need the
opportunity to trust him.
You don't have that yet, and it may take a lot more counseling
to get it. DON'T end your lease until you feel 100%.
And if you think that you can never be a 100% sure and that
90% is good enough, you may want to consider ending your romantic
relationship altogether and work on getting a more realistic
view of what a true life partnership is like, because trust
is the number one factor.
