Dear Panel,

My girlfriend and I have been together for a while and love each other very much. However, we have very different views about sex. We spend a lot of time cuddling and massaging each other, but that's where it stops.

I want sex all time, and she never wants sex. She says she just doesn't like it very much. If we get intimate 2 or 3 times a month that is a lot.

We have discussed it several times and gone over different options. We agreed to try just satisfying me once in a while, but this hasn't worked out. Every time I approach her she just turns away. She claims it is wonderful when we do actually make love, which confuses me more.

Although we haven't tried it yet, we have discussed the possibility of professional counseling. Something needs to change. This situation is making me feel rejected and causing resentment. Am I just being silly or is this a legitimate problem?

frustrated