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Judith
says:
Our
sex drive is as much our own responsibility as our partners.
| I definitely agree.
My husband of 12 years now and I were best friends before we
got married. I have to admit that he was just what I wanted
in everyway except what I thought was the perfect physical form
(the old tall dark, handsome thing) and the sexual spark. There
was a glimmer, but not a spark. I can truly say that most of
the problem was with me and not with him. I had alot of hang-ups
that I had to work through before I could really see what an
attractive and unbelievably sexy and sexual man he was, and
is. By hang-ups I really mean that I was brought up in a wonderful
Christian home, but it was told to me so many times that good
girls don't, and bad girls regret it. . . It took me several
years to let myself open up to my husband, and believe that
good girls do. We have such a wonderful relationship now that
the only thing that I would have regretted was not marrying
my "soul mate" and searching for someone that quickly "sparked"
my interest only to find that when that spark burned out, there
was nothing else to fan the flames with. So, if you truly believe
that it is your attraction to him sexually that is holding you
back, I agree with Judith, you may need to look at yourself
first and do some real soul searching. |
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