To the one who calls herself "Pathetic Girl":

"Happily ever after"

Now, where have I heard that term? Oh yeah, I've heard it in fairy tales and animated classics from Disney.

Believing in fairy tales is one thing. Putting up with violence is another.

Here in the real world, it's a little different. For example, sometimes we kiss frogs and they don't turn into princes. On the plus side, we generally don't have evil witches or kings trying to kill us. Also, some of the frogs turn out to be pretty nice.

Real Relationships Take Work. Seek Counseling

In the real world, being in a loving, healthy relationship is really hard. You have to work at it every day. You two sound like you have been having quite a few difficulties and I'd suggest that you seek counseling before you decide to make your relationship permanent (read: forever).

Both of you have contributed a lot to breaking down trust. You may want to consider counseling on your own in addition to couples counseling.

But... How Did You Feel?

Much of what you said focuses on Mr. X's violations, but not your feelings about them. You are talking about what he's doing and not enough on what you want.

A Counselor Can Help You Sort Out These Feelings

Perhaps counseling can help you decide if Mr. X is the right person for you. You're far from being "pathetic", so make sure that the partner you choose is as wonderful as you are.

Getting counseling with Mr. X won't ever be enough. It's over.