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Andy,
There must be some
missing information here. You are in a HAPPY marriage even
though your wife knows you are in love with her younger sister?
(I'm not very religious, but this brings to mind the Rachel/Leah
story).
How would your
wife feel if you told her sister you loved her? How would
the sister feel? How would her boyfriend feel? My guess is
your wife would hate you, the sister would think you were
creepy, and the boyfriend would haul you to the Jerry Springer
show and grab a chair . . . I suggest you do NOT voice these
feelings.
Instead...
 Get
Some Intensive Counseling.
... buy your wife
a two-week cruise and get some intensive counseling while
she's gone (and avoid her entire family during that period).
There may be some
different issues here. You want to rescue the younger sister
who seems innocent and sweet. Maybe you feel a little paternal?
Or you need to stir up a little sexual tension in your own
relationship which has gotten a little stale?
Have you read the
Mars/Venus books? Maybe some self reflection through these
self-help books is in order. I suggest reading some that help
you figure out what you want in life.
Part of marriage
is to agree to work towards goals together, and somehow
I don't think pursuing younger women and causing family schism's
is a good way to go about reaching those goals. Once you've
had a chance for self reflection, have a long honest talk
with your wife about what you have learned.
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