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I totally agree
with Judith. But this advice will only do you good if :
- You value your
wife's feelings and...
- If you want
to stay in a loving and committed marriage.
Giving her a vacation
and seeking counsel on your own would be a wise decision.
Maybe you should also send your wife with her sister to ensure
that you won't have any contact with the sister during this
time.
For the time being,
the counseling should be only about you and these feelings
you have and why you have them.
Counselors have
amazing abilities to uncover the unknown! I'm sure at some
point the counselor will want you both to seek some help together
but for now I wouldn't tell your wife why your seeking this
help.
At this point
the worse thing you've done is tell your wife your feelings.
Until you seek some help for this I would advise you not to
speak of this issue. Explaining your feelings for your sister-in-law
and not knowing the reason for it or not knowing how to stop
it will only make your wife feel hopeless and unloved.
But before you
break down from infatuation and lust for this sister-in-law
you first need to answer this question: Is this worth ruining
my marriage (your happily formed marriage, as you said)?
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