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We
all Enjoy the Chase More Than the Catch
Dear Jim,
It may be cliche, but
so often we enjoy the chase more than the catch. It is really easy
to like somebody when you don't have to invest any emotion or time
in getting to know them. Its easy to love somebody from afar.
It is another thing to
open up at make yourself vulnerable when the time comes. And there
must be something wrong with that other person if they fall for
you before you fall for them...right?
You Must Both be at
the Same Level of Emotional Maturity
The
only answer I have for you is that you won't ever connect with anybody
unless you are both at the same level of emotional maturity, i.e.
ready for the same things
and amount of commitment.
Think about what you're
looking for and if the people you are looking for have the potential
for wanting those same things at this point in their life. And when
they are, and they're equally as interested in you, give it a chance
before you run for cover.
As Ally McBeal said last
night ,"don't walk away from a maybe." You can't take responsibility
for their emotional preparedness, but work on your own and put yourself
out there, and it just might happen for you.
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