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Jim,
What do you like about
the woman you are seeing this weekend? Even better - how does what
you have to offer her match her positive qualities?
That's the immediate
response. Now, let's address your long-term problem of falling for
women who aren't interested and not being intersted in fallen (?!)
women. Are the two groups of women that different other than one
group is interested in you and the other is not?
Do You Pick The Kind
of Woman Who Would be Interested in You?
Is there one type of
woman that you ALWAYS fall for?
Is this kind of woman
NEVER going to be interested in you (for example - she is a real
wild woman, likes bikers and partying, you are afraid of driving
in a volvo faster than 30 miles per hour). If so - you are sabotaging
yourself. Lots of people do this - it saves them from ever having
to have difficult conversations about relationships, committment,
sharing private property and major purchases, etc. You may just
not be ready. Which is fine - as long as you keep in mind that when
you are ready, you'll have to be a little more courageous.
Maybe You Need to
Wait Longer Before Jumping in
The other possibility
is that you are not spending enough time on ANY woman long enough
to develop mutual interest and respect. Maybe you are wanting to
know if she is the "one" right away. That does happen for some people
- but it took me, personally, almost a year to turn my "dating"
into a relationship with my current boyfriend, and I know plenty
of people that have taken even longer.
Maybe you need to just
spend time
with someone for a while
before jumping into something?
 So,
I suggest you ask yourself a few questions:
1. What do I have to
offer a woman, and what am I looking for in a woman?
2. Do I really want a
committed relationship right now? What would my life be like in
this relationship?
3. How long of a period
can I spend on someone before I give up on them?
Think about these questions
for a while. You'll solve your own problems if you can answer them
honestly.
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